Do you think Millennial males and females have higher standards than males and females of older generations?
Some people feel they do is because Millennials, and to some degree Generation Z males and females have raised the bar in terms of how much they have accomplished compared to older generations of men and women.
More women from these generations have graduated from college and traveled the world; they are wearing many different professional hats and are more career-driven than the women before them, so women who aren’t successful go-getters and who have traveled internationally at least a little bit typically don’t make the cut in terms of high tier dating.Dating is a term that was coined at the start of the 20th century and has had men and women scratching their heads ever since. Dating has changed quite a bit since it’s inception and has drastic difference between the Baby Boomer and Millennial generations. Let’s explore these differences between the two generations.
BREAKUPS ARE MUCH LESS FORMAL:
For the baby boomer generation, breakups were official clear and straightforward. It was talked about and reasons were given for both sides and had a very formal feel to them. Conversely, for the Millennial generation, breakups are clouding with either or both sides not wanting to give clear answers and coupling this with “ghosting” has made any relationship and it’s subsequent breakup really cloudy and messy.
“Ghosting,” as it has come to be known, is the practice of ceasing communication with a partner without any clear warning or reasoning being given and continuing to ignore any of their further attempts to reach out. This form of emotional stonewalling leads to the party on the receiving end left feeling spurned, ostracized, and ultimately dejected. As somebody having the privilege to have a taste of this unique form of emotional devastation, it’s both perplexing and infuriating. Though there’s been no official numeric evidence on the increasing frequency of ghosting, it’s more oft being looked at as symptomatic of the increasing role social media plays in our relationships and it’s offered accessibility to others.
SOCIAL MEDIA PLAYS AN ENORMOUS ROLE:
Social media has had a very significant important on modern day society as well as us human beings living in it. Dating apps and online platforms have not only changed our lives but has changed how our lives intersect with others. Online dating is not new but dating apps used to date/hookup/have casual affairs are a fairly new territory to traverse with its own rules and idiosyncrasies, which most in the baby boomer generation haven’t encountered or cannot understand. Social media molds and affect our lives and how we construct them. Social media is even a landscape in which counting posts, comments, and likes within our own romantic relationships in exchange for classical forms of affection has been normalized.
THE AGE OF DATING APPS:
Following the growth of social media, dating apps have become staples in millennial dating repertoire. When comparing this to the fact that baby boomers had to meet people in person; there is a cornucopia of potential matches and failed first dates exist at our fingertips today, thanks to dating apps like Tinder and Bumble. These dating apps gives access to people from all over your area, state, country or the world and brings along with this a double-edged sword where the status quo of modern romance are high curated pictures, a short description of yourself and swiping left or right. Furthermore, terms such as “clout chasing” and “capping” have become staples amongst Millennials and Generation Zers alike. While these dating apps have opened us up to what seems as more of a selection of potential partners, this vice has come with the dangers of people not wanting to settle down, and having people who are forever on these dating apps looking for the “perfect partner” or just living the bachelor lifestyle. These apps were made for dating but have morphed into hook up apps and are now part of a moral conundrum.
CLOSURE HAS BECOME MORE COMPLICATED:
Social media has allowed the ex partner to forever intertwine in your life as memories of them forever loom over you due to social media. The inter-connectivity of our very social world today has it’s pitfalls such as constant reminders that our past flings are happy without our company or just the opposite, lonely and depressed. For baby boomers it seems they could get a clean break up and move on in a world without social media where you can spy on your ex with just a few clicks.
THE MILESTONES OF LIFE AREN’T SET IN STONE:
Throughout the 20th century, couples followed a pattern that entailed marriage then a home purchase and then building a family. With baby boomers, the pattern also unfortunately included divorce, since a significant amount of couples ended up divorcing at a later date. Many Millennials are forgoing marriage and don’t see it as a major importance of right of passage in their lives. A recent Urban Institute study showed that for the millennial generation, marriage rates could drop as low as 70%, an incredibly sharp decrease from the 91% marriage rate of the baby boomer generation.
THE PRESSURE TO CREATE A NUCLEAR FAMILY IS LESS INTENSE:
The conventional nuclear family dynamics has been shifting for decades. In the past, the conjugal nuclear family offered stability, normalcy, and community for many. But since divorce rates began to see an incremental climb in the late 80s, the conventional familial unit began to see a shift. Now, new forms of families, like divorced couples and single-parent households, or even blended families have became more prevalent, creating a new normal. Furthermore, a Pew Research study shows that almost a quarter of Millennials do not foresee themselves marrying, meaning this movement away from a typical family unit is only going to continue.
MILLENNIAL COUPLES ARE IN CONSTANT CONTACT:
Telephone calls were a mainstay if you were a baby boomer and in a relationship. But, modern technology has moved us into an era of texting and communication apps such as Instagram and Twitter. Where as baby boomer couples were happy to call and have a long conversation on the phone, or spend periods of no contact with one another; this has been replaced with texts, messaging apps, and social media applications to not only talk to your significant other but to the rest of the world.
UNCONVENTIONAL RELATIONSHIPS ABOUND:
Relationships such as polyamory and open relationships have been solidifying themselves and made a place in modern day society. These unconventional relationships have become more socially accepted forms of romantic relationships. it. Back in the baby boomer heydays, the decision to “go steady” was certainly more direct back then compared to how it is for Millennials today. Young Millennial and Gen Z couples tend to not label relationships or even enter them until both parties are very serious about it. In fact, some may just not call what they are in a relationship at all and just go with the flow.
DATING AND RELATIONSHIPS HAVE BECOME TABOO:
There has been a continued shift away from the normal dating paradigm over the generations with Millennials shying away from commitment and the words “dating” and “relationship”. Compared to baby boomers, dating was an exciting adventure, filled with romance and courting and the word date had a positive spin. Now in present day, “dating” and “relationships” are not clear cut and are cloudy with people opting out to live a bachelor or bachelorette lifestyle and prefer to hang out, Netflix and Chill rather than dating.
GENDER ROLES ARE SHIFTING:
Gender roles have certainly shifty since the 1950s where we are seeing women take on roles that were typical of men in public life, education, employment, relationships and family. The dating scene is still lagging behind though, what is seen as romantic is still gender biased though questions are being raised inside both Millennial and Generation Zer generations.
“GASLIGHTING” IS EASIER TO CATCH:
With the advent of smart phones, social media post, and messaging apps, it is now easier than ever to catch Gaslighting lies and faux pas behavior easier than ever when compared to the hay days of the baby boomers. Gaslighting is a term used to describe the emotional manipulation of one romantic partner by another, typically coercing the victim into believing they’re at fault or mentally unstable for being upset by the manipulator’s decidedly terrible behavior. Gaslighting has been nothing new in modern day society and generations of men and women have felt the abuse and emotional trauma of this kind of behaviour, from baby boomers, to Generation X to Millennials and Generation Z. Thanks to Theodore Dorpat, and his 1944 movie “Gaslight”; we have a term to describe such behaviours done by people that are just appauling and one of the worst things you can do to a partner.